【he（is及not及that及into及you）】It’s easy to fall into the trap of thinking someone is interested in you when they’re not. We all want to be liked, and sometimes we read too much into a text, a smile, or a casual “hey.” But what if the truth is more painful than we want to admit? What if the person you’ve been hoping to connect with just isn’t that into you?

You might catch yourself replaying every interaction, wondering if you missed the signs. Maybe they were friendly, but not overly so. They replied quickly, but not with any real enthusiasm. They showed up when you needed them, but only when it was convenient for them. These are the moments that make us question everything—our worth, our judgment, even our feelings.

The reality is, people often act in ways that don’t match their true emotions. Some are just bad at communication. Others are emotionally unavailable. And some are simply not interested, even if they try to be polite about it. It’s not always about you—it’s about them and where they are in life.

So how do you know when to move on? When the signals are mixed, it’s hard to tell. But here’s the thing: if someone truly cares, they’ll make time for you. They’ll show up consistently, listen without judgment, and treat you with respect. If they’re constantly putting you on hold, making excuses, or acting like you’re an afterthought, it’s time to reevaluate.

It’s not easy to walk away from someone who makes you feel special, even if they don’t mean it. But holding on out of hope can hurt more than letting go. You deserve someone who sees you, values you, and wants to be with you—not just when it’s convenient.

So, if you find yourself asking, “Is he not that into me?”—the answer might already be clear. Sometimes, the silence speaks louder than words. And sometimes, the best thing you can do is let go and give yourself the love and attention you truly deserve.